2013 was an incredible year for me. These were a few of the habits I felt brought me the most success and happiness this year; maybe you’ll find one or two of them worth focusing on in your new year.
Busy does not equal productive.
You can do a million random things and never actually accomplish anything. Do you notice some people are always ‘busy’ but have nothing to show for it? Don’t be that person. Evaluate your tasks and make sure they are actually moving you toward your priorities. And if it’s important to you, move it to the top of your to-do list even if it means other tasks have to fall through the cracks.
We reveal what our priorities are by how we spend our time and money.
IN REAL LIFE :: For me this meant launching my blog this year. It was something I always wanted to do but never found the time. Once I truly decided it was important, buying a domain name and publishing my first post shot to the top of my priorities instead of being buried below a zillion other irrelevant tasks.
Do not let the rest of the world run your life.
A failure to plan on their part does not equal an emergency on yours.
They only hop in the drivers seat if you let them.
IN REAL LIFE :: I found a large part of my stress was others failing to plan in processes that involved me. Therefore, I set standards and expectations on my involvement. If you want me to do X, then I need X items, and X days to complete it. If you can’t give me the assets within that timeframe, then I can’t complete it for you.
You teach others how to treat you.
If they aren’t respecting you, then you’ve trained them incorrectly. 2014 is the year you send them back to school.
Make a To-DON’T List
Make a conscious list of things you WILL NOT do. In the book, “From Good To Great,” one defining factor of companies who skyrocketed productivity and profit was determining activities they would not do. My great friend Marc from Marc and Angel Hack Life even posts his ‘To-Don’t” lists in his workspace to remind him daily of the tasks he will not do or limit. I’ll be focusing on this even more in the new year.
What is one thing you could cut out of your life or consciously limit that no longer serves you?
Fear Is A RoadMap To All The Fun 😉
Fear is where all the fun is. In 2013, I took an an accountability challenge with my friend Ally. I committed to doing one thing daily that scared me or something new I had never tried before. Every day we checked in at 11PM. A few of my favorites experiences from this year only happened because of this challenge.
+ I picked up some hitchhikers who serenaded me with ukuleles.
+ I rode around the city on my bike in my underwear in Austin’s “World Naked Bike Ride.”
+ I finally launched this blog after two years of procrastinating and wishing it into existence.
Absolutely NONE of these would have happened without this challenge. If you remember anything, know that everything you want is on the other side of fear. Seek to find any opportunity you can to be outside of your comfort zone.
Facing fear is like a muscle, the more you do it the easier it will become. I can’t guarantee it won’t be hard but I can tell you after a year of doing it everyday, it does get easier. I wouldn’t change who I have became because of it for ANYTHING.
Never, ever apologize for how you spend your time.
Never apologize for how or who you spend your time with. Sometimes things we once loved no longer suit us. Sometimes those that once held us up, now hold us down. And that’s okay. And, it’s supposed to hurt when we have to let go.
Focus your time on those who pull you forward to the best version of yourself.
And when you feel that maybe that isn’t the case anymore, be brave enough to let it go to make room for someone else. When you make space, the universe will shift to fill it.
Never apologize for how you feel or what you won’t allow in your life. At the end of the day when your head hits your pillow only you are left alone with your happiness and/or regrets. Don’t let the rest of the world bully you into believing how and who you spend your time with isn’t your choice. If they have the power, it’s only because you’ve handed it to them.
There ya go, five quick thoughts that impacted my life in 2013. I know that 2014 holds great challenges, opportunities and experiences that we haven’t even imagine yet. Cheers to who you and I will become through the next 365 days.